The relationship

How do you make of a relationship where there's no trust? It is a popular norm to stay away from your partners' phone or email. But when you find
something in his/her cellphone that shake your trust would there be any dispute to the truth of such findings. Could you pretend that such information contain
a potential act of infidelity? Hell no! Anyone will remain sceptical of their partner.
Why do we promote this norm of staying away from your partner's information resources while their acts might betray the value of a relationship?
No one would, in their right mind, want to be cheated on. It hurt me badly to have found an sms sent from another source expressing love for my wife.
It brings doubts to her very utterance of being committed to this relationship. I am not better myself but being cheated on does not make me forgiving in
any sense. From now on, I would like to look for signals to her infedilty acts. My pride would be tainted if I do not take action to eliminate infedility in
my relationship. I do not deny my concern about her past relationship, my jealousy about it but I am willing to forgive and forget the things she has done in the past. I am willing to freely pursue our life's journey together. I yearn to help fulfill her wishes. See things from her side