Inner conviction

In my world, the way I see it, there's not much oral articulation in the form of a promise that could culminate into fulfillment via actions. I can't seem to be what I think or say I am in my relationship. On the hand I dream of this sweet, harmonious relationship with the person I hold dear to my heart. Whenever I promise myself to
become a better, loving and peaceful husband I somehow lose my temper. More especially when I am drunk. I could love to stop drinking, smoking or going out with my wife but I tired of promising myself of restraint. I need help to get over my bad actions. I need help to keep my promises by taking the right actions. I can't argue the fact of my dreaming of a perfect marriage because that's what I'm doing. Sometimes I tend to believe that I need some form of outside validation that what I do right is worth continuing, but I could not help but force myself into convincing my heart that what I'm doing right is worth continuing.
By putting this information into pen and paper, I hope to become the change that I want to be. I wish to start a journey of emotionally, humorously mature communicative relationship with my wife. I wish to begin the road to peaceful,healthy, harmonious and quiet relationship with the person I made an impulsive choice to make my wife.

Employment prayer

Ooh powerful goodness, bountiful father. Increase in me that wisdom which
discovers my natural employment. Stregthen my resolution to perform exceptionally
well in an interview. Accept my kind offices to thy other employers. Give them power
to employ me, thus I can earn enough money to start my own business, whilst
being able to sustain my lifestyle. Increase my wisdom to understand,perform,and perfect the responsibilities of my employement. Open my eyes to the concentration, comitment,and determination of working my way up to successful career.

Why I keep quiet..

Actions speaks louder than words. But at times we hardly concur the manner of speaking as an action speaking louder than words. It is further debilitating to hear about the power of influence. I would like to think that influential people are listened to when communicating. That's how their influence is measured.
If action are louder than words then why do people talk more than they act?
Healthy communication has been a vital tool in human evolution for ever. Why then
do saying like the one in this paragraph remains a discouragant to communication.
Quite a contradictory world I think.
I, personally have a cast in stone need to be of influence in my chosen cycle. I am not, nevertheless who would battle to be heard but have a substantial need to prove the validity of my subject matter. Other than that I keep quiet. I back off from emotional conversations.
Not necessarily that I keep my thoughts to myself but because emotional conversations have are borne in the need to be right. When I, on the other hand, open my mouth to talk I do so to influence the direction of the subject or the action that should be taken.

Taking the management hotseat.

The information I am about to give out has questionable areas of integrity. The race to become a manager in an office setting remain obscure to many of us. However, we are told that the ability to delegate and lead would get you there. But when you look around you could see perfect fitting managerial individuals working under another
manager. I could not agree more with what management books would attempt to teach me. I have convinced myself that making strategic friendship with companies capable of making me a manager would be ideal. Being actively involved in the politics of the office gives added benefit. Identifying potential managerial competitors and shamelessly backstab them will get me ahead. Manipulating, backstabbing and outsmarting my opponents is something I would shamelessly do, even when they could see how am I going to the top. Ambition has liberated me. The confidence to perform the above without much shame is adorable. Even psychological mind games would be a weapon.

The power of talent

Most of us seem to be less talented than other people. They got all
the grades in school, graduated on high grades from university in
recognised subjects. Then went on to work for an internationally reputable
company on a prestigious job, earning high income. Within those talented came
others who were just natural born businessmen, footballers, marketers, communicators
and etc,etc. We, as the average, battle to make it to management positions.
We passed our grades on average. We went to an average college. Got average marks.
Went to work on an average job. Our jobs were the first to be on the line when the company decided to lay off its staff. Why? Because we were average.
In hindsight, we could read, laugh, eat, come to work early and many other things, which the talented could do. Yet they are always ahead of us. Gain more recognition than us. Yet, some speakers on motivation, excellence and other performance determinant factors come with their garbage, telling us we could perform as best as the best. But when you ask those who have recognised talent in the field, they would tell you the same thing but you know about those factors. You have known it for many a time, yet nothing seem to satisfy you. They would further tell you how you are not
following the instructions to implement these factors into your working advantage. I personally think it's a ludicrous claim to tell someone they are not following the instructions. I don't think anyone would pick up a book on practising their desired craft better than most in the field and never want to follow the instructions on how to. It is clear that we could say, confidently, that others are just born with it.
The claim that we can be better as much as the best is a superficial claim. A claim by those who want to sell their books, lecture and so forth. Anyone in their insightfully right mind would not agree with these claims.
The best of those we have in different fields are natural born. The best marketers, footballers, sales executives,businessmen, leaders and many others' are natural born. The rest of us are just average and we have to accept it.
The disguising reason that the talented practice or study like the rest of us is to keep the existing, inborn talent intact. They are not developing it like the rest of us. Another added advantage is their unique gift of identifying what they're good at at an early stage of their lives. We could never be like the talented, however hard we could try. We can gain knowledge about these factors but we could never have the lasting power of applying them into perfection. The only hope is to cherish our average nature. That's the fortunate or unfortunate power of talent or lack of it.

Compare and contrast

You are a born competitor. The environment you live in is a competitive
playground. This nature applies to everyone from any economic, social, political or
demographical background. As a human being you have a tendency to compare
yourself to other people. Surprisingly, even those you like to copmare yourself
to do compare themselves to others above them. That literally makes life what you
have known it to be: a cycle.
I do not exclude myself to this human nature. However, there are certain comparison that we make. Some of them tend to unhealthy. Thus I would take it within my stride to acknowledge my limitless power not to compare but channel my contrasting to situations, circumstances, challenges or
successes that shape, positively, my handling of my relevant factors in my life.
This will strengthen my thinking in realising that others' situations does not
necessarily culiminate into my own challenges, circumstances and so forth. By applying this kind of thinking I would be at liberty of clearly reflecting, acting on my own defined terms.

Guidance from the Bible

It is called the book of life. Everything the universe encounter,
the great book has predicted. All truth is said to be in the book.
When you want to gain wisdom, guidance and healing the great book has
all the answer. When you want try understand God's purpose for yourself
read the word in the book and you shall be blessed.
I have come to realise that I need to replenish my spiritual faith, while
keeping my burning desire to bring into fruition my value of wisdom. After
years of foolish utterance, I would now give up myself to the power of God.
This is because I have realised that some challenges in my life could not
be resolved by myself alone, but a little bit of faith in God would be a
resounding decision.
To keep in touch with the higher power, I have committed myself to read one
chapter of the scipture in the book of Proverbs each day and say my prayer
twice per day. Thus He will help me overcome challenges and achieve my goals.
Praise the lord!

Character of a...

Have you noticed that nice but extremely intelligent person in your
surrounding. This person is hardly social, yet nice person to live with.
He greets you when he passes you by. He doesn't seem able to hurt a fly or
have many words to say. Somehow shy, reclusive. The only thing you know
about him was his dedication in his studies where he stood out from many
of your close friends. You were further introduced to his persona through his work colleagues. They pronounceed his remarkable strong work ethics such as coming to work 15 minutes early.
Hardly set a foot wrong. Focus on work during working hours. He has at least one older friend, yet he communicate admirably to his colleagues. He is focused on the issue at hand. The kind of person you respect his need of personal time while he has not done or said anything to give you that impression. He's mostly neat in what he does. He's able to initiate and complete a task.He's that cool, smart guy you feel sorry for but you don't know why. He's the type who seem to get things he want without causing any stir. You could guess that he work hard to get those things but it seem he got it rather
easy.

Positive expectation

No one would lie to herself by stating they have no expectation of good things happening in their life.
I am no exception!
However, being positive about your expectations has its own repercussions. Negative things still happen while you're only looking out for the positive. Some advise that one should plan for bad things, but I could ask you to look realistically into yourself and tell me whether you have really planned for disaster.
I could tell that many don't. This is because mankind is wired to think about the benefits not the loss. When your expectations do not occur the way you wanted them to, the irritating advise of being realistic is brought to light. I personally do not think any person within their reasonability would overdream themselves. These dreams that came to your mind were within your potential to reach them, otherwise they would not have popped up.
Being positive is not an easy state to be in despite society's constant promotion of positive thinking. My mind is totally overwhelmed by focusing on how I am thinking. It's hard knowing you're not being positive.
Here are my findings: When I am positive about a particular situation due to happen, I get impatiently tense thus the resultant expectations happen slower than the challenges against the expectation. The irony is that when I get negative, nothing changes. Things seem to be moving the way they would if I were positive,
but, still it's deemed unhealthy to be negative.
It's a psychological rollercoaster, indeed!

Presidential personality

With good notice of current president's persona in articulating issues,
challenges and opportunities that South Africa has,, it is worth noting
the difference between him and his predecessor. The former president has set
a precedence of presidential expectation in the manner which issues, challenges,and opportunities are communicated. Thabo had a different tone of voice compared to Jacob. The former's
tone of voice gave an inpsirational perspective in the form of communication. While the latter has no voice of note, which many of us have associated with his lack of knowledge in the matters ommunicated.
With Thabo, your blood pressure rose with inspiration while Jacob's does not make want to listen. This difference may be used by many others, that Jacob does not exhibit presidential personality. Let me borrow from one utter subject: astrology. Gemini rule the voice, nervous system while Aries rule action, adventure.
Thabo is a Gemini while Jacob is an Arien.
When looked at, it is worth noting that Jacob inherited corrupt, poor service presidency. You may assume there was no action but mercurial communication. Our subsequent dislike of Jacob could now be on his lack of inspirational vocal communication, but we could not discredit his potential of inspiring action that avert poor service delivery and corruption.

Why you lie Question

Question:Why you lie?
Answer:Because it's human nature.

Wait a minute! Lying because it's human is the least answer you
would give to anyone asking you why you lied, isn't it? Let's examine
some of the reasons people lie to you or you lie to them.
Think back from your youth days how you told someone a lie. You knew it was
wrong, but you continued lying to this date. You know older people who
have lied to you. So why mankind lie, although he knows it's wrong?
It is undeniably true that lying is human. According to my findings, people lie mostly when they are caught doing something unacceptable, or desperate to get
out of unsettling situation. You lie because you want to feel worthy. Yes, lying
to feel worthy. Recall your social gathering where the conversation almost compelled
you to say something deemed worthy of others' ears. You knew it was not true but would be most welcome in the conversation.
You lie because lies could be used to fill a gap that the truth can't. However, most
of us who lie deliberately are universally aware that we'll regret having uttered a lie.
Lying make us feel bad. We examine our lives so often, only to find that our experiences does not match the Joneses'.
You lie because you want to get ahead. You lie because you want please someone.
Society may continue denouncing the lies you utter, but lying will remain part
of human culture until extinction.
Sad but true.

How gossip shapes perception

Many of us are not in total control of our minds. However much we think
we are. There's always that untamable little receptor hard fixed in our brain.
You might tell yourself not to lie or the opposite but find yourself to have hinted
on the truth or the lie.
When your colleagues, friends, family and others you come into contact with give a certain opinion, a particular issue or person, your brain receptor automatically store that information into your subconscious mind. That information will come into play when you come into contact with similar or person. That's the main reason why some of us don't like certain settings or people. Our initial denouement are none other than the idiosyncrasies of how chit-chats, gossip, opinions and perception
shapes our way of thinking.

Fatal career mistake: working for money

Think about your circle of friends. When you're hanging out, conversations
about someone successful often crops up. Success measured by how much money the person have. You unconsciously affirm to your mind that money will lead you to the same league as the next person. You work extremely hard to earn that monthly salary. Open a business to prove how much money you can make. What you don't realise is that your 'working for money' mentality is your self originated recipe for disaster.
I am not trying to say that you should work for free. Yes, you must get rewarded for your efforts.
The most critical reason anyone should wake up in the morning, prepare themselves for the working day ahead,is that inner, undying, burning desire to express oneself.
The reason I want to be celebrated for my crafts is not because I earned lots of money, but because I worked 12 hours each day perfecting my craft. Learning to be the best everyday.
Lesson of them all: work for self expression and to be the best in your chosen field. Money is the aftermath, not the main reason.
Not even the reason.

Marketing as details

Have you noticed how different companies from same industry give details of their products?
Immeasurable amount of information is fed on what makes a specific product/service. Furthermore,consumers are shown how the product/service help them save money. How healthy the product is, how efficient the service is. Different mediums are used, apparently in line with market segmentation, to reach the audience.
Complex human beings are classified as target markets based on demographics, income, lifestyle, preferences and many utter garbage.
This is all wrapped under the name. The name that was coined to psychologically twist the mind our vulnerable society.
Marketing?
There is no such thing as marketing other than accepted classification of other form of living. General population organise events, spend money as per their impulses and live among the hybrid of the population.
Yet no one hardly mention what we call 'corporate world' is in fact a segment in itself. This brave society brand itself in communication skills, time management, and the now famous,'stress management'. In today's seasonal generation of careerism,
being part of the corporate 'market' is seen, both by the aspire and those close, as determination. Utter garbage!
The kings and the queens at the top are looting all the money while the rest are slaving about, getting into debts and suffering from fatigue, yet can't stop to work.It's the world of anti-family, anti-personal value. Erosion of individuality.
You conform or you stay out. Staying out would be seen as being poor.
Being humble is preached but hardly practised. Being goal orientated, value living, and so forth is preached, but check on the surface, with an open mind. What you realise that it's utter talkmanship while the only values, goals that matters are the goals of the company.
Bullshit!

Life's drama rehearsed

I am not sure whether there are people who are completely detached from themselves.
Someone who sees her/his self from a completely objective viewpoint. Human being has been found to be an emotional creature. Influenced by emotions more than logical thinking. Every person is totally interested in themselves, in some way or another. However much we try to articulate otherwise we remain interested in some sort,to our true self. This has made negotiation more unpredictable and in requisite of specials negotiation gifts that lead to a compromise.
As for me, due to this realisation I would outline below the actions that I would countertake when thinking,relating to other human beings.
I would constantly remind myself that no one has my interest at heart thus I must find out their truest interest that I could use to get mine met. Acknowledge that no one owes me anything and I should wake to smell the coffee. Remain a listener,
a questioner while in negotiation. I would not expect people to like me but would make them like me by being in their side of thinking. Never be afraid to think differently even when it appears costly. Remember that people would be critical of me thus I must remain firm in my views.
It's the drama that each one us rehearsed as per our scripts or others'. The scripts that we run through our minds when in our shell, unconsciously,reviewing our recent,past experience or thinking about our long term goals.

Personality defects

It is widely understood that mankind is fallible. Most of them are rooted in personality.This is because people are mostly judged by their character. With empahsis on strong character.
Although we celebrate strong character, they are defects which even the strongest show, rather unintentionally.I would like to point out some weaknesses in character that have shown themselves.Mostly to my regret. It is hard not to regret having done something you would not do under normal circumstances.
My inability to say no when I should.
Rushing to agree with some people when in negotiation.
Losing patience at times
Being overwhelmed while it seems unnecessary
I am not trying to promote these defects but exposing my mistakes which are not within my liking.Although I have come to understand that I am blindly measuring myself according to accepted standards communicated via all human medium, I understand my limitation in forging my own character without measure.