Life does not always work the way we would like it to be. Hold on! I said 'LIFE'. Am I not taking responsibility to my choices that I made? We clearly have been programmed to take responsibility for good things that we do but not the bad we do. But that's another matter all together. Now I will focus on the main subject of this writing. The verge of destitute.
It is not enough to have money in the world. One needs more than more money to survive. If we continue believing that money is everything then we are headed for trouble.
I do not have more and I am okay with it. I came with no money and I will leave with none. It is more than money to live. It is more than the love of money to live.
Ten steps to live a life within your luck and hard work:
1. Prepare yourself for anything,i.e success or failure
2. Be practical when there's a problem
3.Be ruthless to your enemy
4.Do not leave any stone unturned
5.Keep your vision intact
6.Identify people who can be of great help and use them accordingly
7.Never pretend to be happy while you are not. This will save you many emotional baggage
8.If your crisis require money get as much as you can.
9.Love your family and your wife. You need their understanding.
10.Remember your values and work towards entrenching them in all your dealings
No one deserve to be a destitute and I will fight to the bitter end to ensure I remain structured and visionary
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Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Monday, October 19, 2009
Owening 2009
2009 has been the most uplifting year for my life based on my values. However, the year has not been as good as one planned a year ago. Many good things happened then resulted in my financial insecurity. This is mainly due to my choices I have made thus far. Coupled with the current economic conditions I can not see myself well off any time soon.
Let me recap some of the choices I made that harmed my financial security. Towards the end of 2008, I opened an online share trading account with my bank. It was a promising venture that was well within my goal to own some shares in a company. I browsed through some websites and booklets to find the right trading strategies and hot share tips. I was dreaming of making a quick buck. I had read somewhere looking for a quick buck was a bad strategy, but I was of thought that I am smart enough to defy the status quo. I made a deposit of R50,000,00 to buy shares between 34c and R2.50 per share. Then a month after there was a financial meltdown. The market shook and I lost an amount of R10,000 within two weeks. I was not intimidated by that loss. I held onto my shares until november when I sold them at a loss of R10,000.
In October, I registered for a degree which I was adamant I will meke it through. I was trying to make my life more resourceful. However, through some unforeseen disinterest I did not study enough to write my exams. Then I decided not to write. By enrolling and never got to write, I wasted R3500. Money, through inconsistency, gone done the drain. What a shame!
While on it, I was busy doing my driver's licence which I got at a cost of R4500. Another money gone. In February 2009, I met a girl that I have had an interest for 3 years. When she finally agreed we go out I was elated to have achieved my longtime interest. Then, I discovered that she was in debts. She asked me to pay off her debts, which I did with great generousity. I paid her debts off. R6,000 down the drain in the name of love. What a shame! I was getting this insecurity growing in me about this relationship because I thought things will change for the better. In march, I requested my family to go to her family for proposal to pay lobola for her to be my wife. R4,000 down the drain.
After I got my driver's licence, I went for the jagular and bought my dream car, in credit, on a R25,000 deposit. Another money gone. Insecurity growing by a minute. A week after my new possession, because I wsa not yet an accomplished driver, I burned my car's clutch plate. R750 to get the car picked up by towing company. Misery creeping! All I was building for was slowly going down the drain. To get the clutch plate fixed I parted ways with R4500 plus R350 to have the car moved from one repairer to another. I was scared but kept doing the same mistakes. Then a month after the clutch plate was replaced it burned again. I parted ways with R6500 plus R450 to have the clutch replaced and towing. It was the most traumatising experience.
Because I had asked to marry the girl I love, my family went back again to pay the lobola for the love of my heart. I paid my first lobola with great doubt. What kept me going I do not know because I had grown to feel that this lady will love me only if I had money. I am still not sure about the truth behind my feelings. During the lady's lobola day, I parted ways with R7000. For what, I still do not know! I was regretting everything I was doing from that point on. On the day of lobola I got to know how much money will they need for final lobola. R15000 was the remaining balance. From this time I had no money left in all my accounts.
While on it, we had applied for a house which got approved. I started looking forward to days of having no money in my account, after I had done my calculations from my salary. Although I was speaking to her about me not having money from the start, it was not working. I was walking blindly, to the sea of love. Where it will be fine, I still have no faintest idea.
To be able to pay the remaining lobola I made a loan of R15,000.
'You can't get the best of both world', they say.
Now I happen to be in a situation where I do not know how will I handle any trouble that comes my way and require money to resolve. I do not know if I will be able to achieve my other dreams. I do not know if I will have the power to live a life, with a wife without money to support a lifestyle.
It's owening 2009! What a beautiful shame!
Let me recap some of the choices I made that harmed my financial security. Towards the end of 2008, I opened an online share trading account with my bank. It was a promising venture that was well within my goal to own some shares in a company. I browsed through some websites and booklets to find the right trading strategies and hot share tips. I was dreaming of making a quick buck. I had read somewhere looking for a quick buck was a bad strategy, but I was of thought that I am smart enough to defy the status quo. I made a deposit of R50,000,00 to buy shares between 34c and R2.50 per share. Then a month after there was a financial meltdown. The market shook and I lost an amount of R10,000 within two weeks. I was not intimidated by that loss. I held onto my shares until november when I sold them at a loss of R10,000.
In October, I registered for a degree which I was adamant I will meke it through. I was trying to make my life more resourceful. However, through some unforeseen disinterest I did not study enough to write my exams. Then I decided not to write. By enrolling and never got to write, I wasted R3500. Money, through inconsistency, gone done the drain. What a shame!
While on it, I was busy doing my driver's licence which I got at a cost of R4500. Another money gone. In February 2009, I met a girl that I have had an interest for 3 years. When she finally agreed we go out I was elated to have achieved my longtime interest. Then, I discovered that she was in debts. She asked me to pay off her debts, which I did with great generousity. I paid her debts off. R6,000 down the drain in the name of love. What a shame! I was getting this insecurity growing in me about this relationship because I thought things will change for the better. In march, I requested my family to go to her family for proposal to pay lobola for her to be my wife. R4,000 down the drain.
After I got my driver's licence, I went for the jagular and bought my dream car, in credit, on a R25,000 deposit. Another money gone. Insecurity growing by a minute. A week after my new possession, because I wsa not yet an accomplished driver, I burned my car's clutch plate. R750 to get the car picked up by towing company. Misery creeping! All I was building for was slowly going down the drain. To get the clutch plate fixed I parted ways with R4500 plus R350 to have the car moved from one repairer to another. I was scared but kept doing the same mistakes. Then a month after the clutch plate was replaced it burned again. I parted ways with R6500 plus R450 to have the clutch replaced and towing. It was the most traumatising experience.
Because I had asked to marry the girl I love, my family went back again to pay the lobola for the love of my heart. I paid my first lobola with great doubt. What kept me going I do not know because I had grown to feel that this lady will love me only if I had money. I am still not sure about the truth behind my feelings. During the lady's lobola day, I parted ways with R7000. For what, I still do not know! I was regretting everything I was doing from that point on. On the day of lobola I got to know how much money will they need for final lobola. R15000 was the remaining balance. From this time I had no money left in all my accounts.
While on it, we had applied for a house which got approved. I started looking forward to days of having no money in my account, after I had done my calculations from my salary. Although I was speaking to her about me not having money from the start, it was not working. I was walking blindly, to the sea of love. Where it will be fine, I still have no faintest idea.
To be able to pay the remaining lobola I made a loan of R15,000.
'You can't get the best of both world', they say.
Now I happen to be in a situation where I do not know how will I handle any trouble that comes my way and require money to resolve. I do not know if I will be able to achieve my other dreams. I do not know if I will have the power to live a life, with a wife without money to support a lifestyle.
It's owening 2009! What a beautiful shame!
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
My wife and I
The perception has been that a man should be stronger to a women. Under which moral virtue was the perception unveiled I still don't have an idea. Actually I do not want to know. It is downright silly to think a unique relationship between a man and women in terms of dominance or power. I think the main importance between a husband and wife is finding common ground within the relationship challenges. In doing so, it becomes easier to encourage each other to reach own goals, dreams and stay happy and united.
My wife and I: My name is Owen. Her name is Kurhula. We have gone past the 'I' to 'I am in love with you'. I am crazy about her and I would do anything possible that it stays that way. She's crazy about me and she's doing everything possible to ensure the relationship stay that way. We both yearn for adventure. The passion within is intense. Understanding each other's needs and compromising to each other may be matched but it remains wonderful. One other thing to note is the schoolboy, schoolgirl naivete that we both have. We regard honesty as the best policy and keep our egos in check for the sustenance of the relationship. It is no use harbouring resentments , thus we try as hard as possible to ensure our relationship is both fun and stimulating. The harnessing of harmony transcend to genuine respect and patience with one another. When the going gets tough we show much love to each other. Difficult times we see as a stepping stone to making our marriage even more stronger. We stop out hearts and minds to engage into doubts about each other. Being in peace with one another is the primary factor. It is within our interest to make the relationship between each other more compatible than the stars may permit.
Upon her entrance into my life, I have become warmer to love than previously anticipated. Our sex life is platonic, beyond generic satisfaction. Our kissing is extravagant. Our hearts reminds each other how much we have for each other. We laugh at one another without getting upset.
It is within the lasting of the relationship to keep loving, helping, guiding and working together.
I have no doubts that she loves me and she has no doubts that I love her. Basically, we are in love with each other.
My wife and I: My name is Owen. Her name is Kurhula. We have gone past the 'I' to 'I am in love with you'. I am crazy about her and I would do anything possible that it stays that way. She's crazy about me and she's doing everything possible to ensure the relationship stay that way. We both yearn for adventure. The passion within is intense. Understanding each other's needs and compromising to each other may be matched but it remains wonderful. One other thing to note is the schoolboy, schoolgirl naivete that we both have. We regard honesty as the best policy and keep our egos in check for the sustenance of the relationship. It is no use harbouring resentments , thus we try as hard as possible to ensure our relationship is both fun and stimulating. The harnessing of harmony transcend to genuine respect and patience with one another. When the going gets tough we show much love to each other. Difficult times we see as a stepping stone to making our marriage even more stronger. We stop out hearts and minds to engage into doubts about each other. Being in peace with one another is the primary factor. It is within our interest to make the relationship between each other more compatible than the stars may permit.
Upon her entrance into my life, I have become warmer to love than previously anticipated. Our sex life is platonic, beyond generic satisfaction. Our kissing is extravagant. Our hearts reminds each other how much we have for each other. We laugh at one another without getting upset.
It is within the lasting of the relationship to keep loving, helping, guiding and working together.
I have no doubts that she loves me and she has no doubts that I love her. Basically, we are in love with each other.
Monday, October 12, 2009
Wishing for luck and harmony
Luck does not come from anywhere. You need to look for it through a rather lateral view. Harmony can not come from anywhere, but one has to build harmonious attitude to attain it.
How valid the above statements are is not yet clear but trying to look for them in pragmatic and imaginative way is a sure attempt of hoping to attain the understanding. I wish to be lucky in controlling myself for the advancement of my purposes and philosophies. This luck must translate into harmony when I am angry at myself. Harmony with people I interact with. My harmonious nature would truthfully enhance my quick understanding and deep concentration on my studying each book I read thus I can use the knowledge acquired to advance my ambitious plans with confident initiative and self force. To wish for money is not bad, I wish I could have implementable plans that I can use to generate an income of at least R25,000,00 a month. Although there's more, the philosopher king luck would not hurt but bring as much happiness to me. The luck that I request is like a prayer that comes within the current life direction. My writing intend to reflect my inner personality that I dare not show to the real world. It is my believe that I am more pro-personality than anti-character. This wish for luck and harmony does not mean I would remain complacent in my day-to-day living but take responsibility and grab opportunities when suitable to my vision. It is interesting to note that I will take some steps in ensuring that I continue making my own luck as per set plans. I shall keep on wishing for luck and harmony.
I will never stop!
How valid the above statements are is not yet clear but trying to look for them in pragmatic and imaginative way is a sure attempt of hoping to attain the understanding. I wish to be lucky in controlling myself for the advancement of my purposes and philosophies. This luck must translate into harmony when I am angry at myself. Harmony with people I interact with. My harmonious nature would truthfully enhance my quick understanding and deep concentration on my studying each book I read thus I can use the knowledge acquired to advance my ambitious plans with confident initiative and self force. To wish for money is not bad, I wish I could have implementable plans that I can use to generate an income of at least R25,000,00 a month. Although there's more, the philosopher king luck would not hurt but bring as much happiness to me. The luck that I request is like a prayer that comes within the current life direction. My writing intend to reflect my inner personality that I dare not show to the real world. It is my believe that I am more pro-personality than anti-character. This wish for luck and harmony does not mean I would remain complacent in my day-to-day living but take responsibility and grab opportunities when suitable to my vision. It is interesting to note that I will take some steps in ensuring that I continue making my own luck as per set plans. I shall keep on wishing for luck and harmony.
I will never stop!
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