Sunday, November 30, 2008

Listening,Hearing and Misinterpretation

'Speak your mind, they pretend not to be listening but they're hearing' is an intellectual revolution that sought to rid ignorance. Or did it really!

Because I seem to get a lot of criticism about my interaction with people., which I have no problem with. I'm not really a people's person at heart but I do manage to along with quite a few. A couple of people have stated that I do not take anybody's idea. What? I dare say that such characterisation holds no water whatsoever. In listening, one should have an opportunity to hear what is said. 'Hear'. When you hear, you do not readily agree with the suggestion. Not to say you have better thoughts but values are ordinarily, guides to what anyone engaged in a debate agrees or disagrees. Yes, I'm a good listener but I do not readily agree to people's suggestion; thus, I hear what people say. Some have misinterpreted my healthily confrontational scepticism as to show I'm pig-headed. 'Pig-headed', may be, but I believe that I'm an opinionated individual who happen to like an honest argument which does not breach personal values. It also dawned in me that my uncompromising and meticulous need for quality and perfection has and may be misinterpreted as yearning for popularity. Apparently, this 'popularity' which is said to be a driving force in my character is rather unachievable. What is not realised is that, intuitively, I disregarded 'popularity' because I figured out it was an unrealistic goal for sophisticated and accomplished individuals like I. Now, I ask, which evidence or facts do my detractors have to utter such malice accusations.
I do not think myself as dictatorial or bossy for that matter. What I would like to be percieve is someone who's cool, distant and intellectually adventurous

Furthemore, I would not be retorting if I had not listened and heared, but attention and criticism brought to me is worth every second if it's well founded and based on facts, not from non-value observation.

I do listen, hear, try to interpret what people are actually saying in an objective manner.' I would like to engage in a debate that allows us, as people, to show that we are all human being who have serious concerns to discuss. I'm trying to say there is irreverent emphasis on my importance. What i'm trying to stregthen is an open lifestyle that I'm unconsciously inheriting. A lifestyle that listen to people's criticism, modify them for the better, and finally, become a better citizem of the the global community. 'A better citizen' does not mean 'better than any other person' but what it means is deep seated honesty to be fundamentally good to oneself, own aspirations, and others. However, this assertion does not promote complacency, where people gain the advantage of mainipulating me. Open ended honesty is encouraged but should not give anyone access to underhanded tactics.
I can not afford to be bossy in my than I can be an articulate, controversial intellectual, who happens to swallow his pride and resort to shame culture.
Despite my being misinterpreted on my statement, sometimes due to my frail communication, I will continue to be as rhetorical, or other's term 'argumentative'. This, I'll do, when I'm in doubt of what the speaker to ears is saying. How am I going to do this? Through asking provocative questions, some of the will be unsettling to listener. When in doubt, do research and qustioning is the fundamental functioning of research.
Above all, I continue to listen, hear and weed misinterpretation. I wouldn't care less if I happen to, rhetorically, step into other people's shoes to get the message accross. Nothing beats precise and clear communication.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

My opposite sex

In the era of entitlement, most people think everyone they hang out with or associate with owe them their path to whatever 'entitlement'. Bluntly, I don't owe anyone anything or hold anyone's path to entitlement.


In my surroundings, I came across individuals who happen to have unrealistic expectation of me. Initially, I thought it fortunate for those expectations coming from the opposite sex. You might be thinking. Is this not every cynical male talk about when they have failed to convince a certain girl to bed them after a couple of beers? To say, yes, it's partly true, would not be overbearing. But, consider this; a group of women gathering in a their usual place to chat about issues affecting them and enjoying a couple of drinks. With me(male) sitting there, sharing a beer or two with them. Generally, absolutely normal unmarried women talk about clothes, kind of man they want, or, precisely, their hopes and fears.


The global community has been unindated, for almost a century, with upholding and cherishing women's rights to freedom, a beautiful life, empowerment. These values are qualities society needs more than we can hope since it categorically emphasise and enhance human rights. In having agreed on such resolution, men were sitting at the round long table agreeing to follow and practice the resolution. Where were women at that stage? Despite my very grumpy view, most women advanced to their highest possible dreams. I dare someone to come before me and say women need to be abused. I have all confidence that no rational, sceptical man can dare say or do such thing. Neither do I. Women abuse is condemned and worth heavy punishment. However, there's some negativity hindering women. What? Who? Who, what can it be than women themselves.Most women have a problem. Or should I don't understand their psychology, as everyone is used to say. I think they misunderstood a global ideal to respect, empower them. Most of females I happen to have met came to think of my standing as an individual as an opportunity to serve their needs. I have found it wrong and betrayal of global women ideals to note that there's lady who'll ask me to buy her something in this age, where women's rights are foremost in global agenda. Am I overreacting? Or is their idea of empowerment and freedom to a beautiful life, an opportunity to exploit man, mostly materially and financially? I stand against both these notions if anyone believe its truth. I have, met good looking women who also happen to be exceptionally intelligent than I and the only thing I can do was to admire them. I'm not against the idea of, 'if you anger a women you have angered a dangerous,hard, strong rock, but our sisters out there need to know that we don't owe them anything and should know to get what is due to them they work for it. That's empowerment at its best, I hope. Sitting around, gossiping and waiting for their husband's pay check never worked or it's something I hope not to do in my life. Their tendency to think they're beyond criticism is another pitfall of many. Our society has taught women to celebrate themselves and be free from fear because society has an undeniable role to protect them. That's true and warrant able, but it's also condemnable for them to sit and ridicule the very men who they said he mustn't abuse? Males are dangerous species more specially when angered.


Our sisters need to respect themsleves enough to undervalue, undermine and ridicule an honest man whose respect for the opposite sex is guided by an undertaking to respect, and protect women. As someone whose integrity lies in being more mentally than being emotional about delicate matters, I will constantly disengage myself from getting emotionally responsive until they realise there isn't anything I owe them. Perhaps my mistake would've been to express my love for sex, but who doesn't want to have sex when they're in a relationship. I will try find another way of expressing this need gentlemanly. In this way I'll be avoiding an embarrasment that women hurls at me, when I try to be upfront. Another resolution, which I hope will make things easier for me with the opposite sex, is to refrain from being the 'I' type. Apparently, ladies do not like a self involved person. There's more for me to do in terms of trying to sound diplomatic. However, I have never found it reasonable not expect ladies to confirm a request. There's a percetion that you have to understand their reaction in order to know whether she has confirmed your request. It's unrealistic to rely on such impression. If reaction was paramount women would've not have had brains and mouth.
Let's appreciate and be dynamic.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

I'm an optimist

I fear not recession. Because being the self involved person that I am, economics interests me when I'm studying its concepts. Practical, I try to cast another picture when economic performance slows down. I do not think, like any other optimist, the current econonmic slow down will last for more than three months or continue to slow down as it is now. This kind of thinking might seem a bit over-optimistic, but economics as it is has never been an exact science. It's interesting and warranted to set inflation targeting but factors that determine achieving such an objective depends on whether industry's output lives to expectation after other economic facilitations such as monetary policy and developmental policy, so forth. We might say economics is partly art and science.
I'm no superman or have an economic Rosetta Stone waiting to be discovered in me, but I have not find any reason so far to worry about the current global economic condition. This unconcerned utterance is not an attempt to downplay the crisis. There's crisis but that's for well versed economic leaders to uncover the mysteries that may lead to sustainable solution. My 'unconcerned utterance' is an optimistic attempt to say 'if I understand that this situation is now part of our daily struggle, since it happened in 1929, 1987, 1998, then there's no need to worry because it passes all the time.'
In seeing hope where there's none does not mean to be over-optimistic. What it generally means is that when one refer to how the mind works, we find that we can make our own reality by changing our state of mind. 'Our own reality' which pessimists will see as self deception or delusion. If the mind expects truth, growth and beauty, then it attracts similar to its environment. Then imagine if 20 out of 30 good economists assigned to come up with sustainable solutions for current and future economic growth wants,needs truth,beauty and growth out of global economic, thus the possibility of such yearning is warrant able, isn't it? An example of sort is applicable since economics is not an exact science.
Optimism!!Not at all an exact science either. The nice thing about being an optimist, though, compared to economic condition, is that it's entirely up to the subject concerned. To be optimistic does not automatically state you look not at the negative sections of an issue, but using whatever is within your disposal to manifest positive change you want to see happen.
Looking at another matter which perception is mounting about presidential material. What is a presidential material? In technical terms a presidential material would be someone who has distinctive and accurate understanding of the working of various issues which are for the benefit of a nation. Hang on! Such elaboration is equal to an intellectual, isn't? Doesn't this mean all intellectuals are presidential material? Personality! What personality should anyone we see as presidential material possess? Calmness.Aggression.Above average intellect. I'm no leader of people or a follower of social events; thus I cannot make any substantial judgement of leadership values. I'm an individual living by values: humbleness, uprightness, constant care, and so forth. And these values I did not conceive but peacefully and humbly ingrained in my blood. I would equate myself to an advise wise Ceaser once give to his subject, Brutus, when he said,`Our fault dear Brutus, lies not in the stars, but in us because we are underlings.' That's an advise we can expect from a leader, not from an individual. I'm an individual. An optimist.
Optimism, however, does not mean subjecting myself to uneducated views of people who happens to resort to selfish reasons and undertakings to my dislike. Why am I saying this? There are certain individuals who have tried to undermine my individuality and independence, from my neighbourhood. It's surprising after so much that I was prepared to offer they still think there isn't anything I can do but to be taken advantage of. Well, Lauryn Hill, on her song Mr Intentional, stated that hers is not materially based love or she's not available if that's so. I can't see any reason not to uphold such a principle. It is a finality that I can not hang out with these girls from my neighbourhood because the emotional burden they give me is highly intolerable. I can't, however, mention their names but my memory is selective enough to understand which people I'm referring to.
Basically, this kind of attitude is paramount in trying to deepen genuine optimism.

Thursday, November 13, 2008

The Charm of Words,Phrases

Everyone is talking about looming recession, market crash, high unemployment.
I have decided to turn my attention to something less disturbing. I love words, big words, phrases, wise phrases. Cynically, who doesn't like to sound clever by using magnanimous words? Few people, i guess. Complicated sophistication is what attracts me to the charm of words, phrases. Just as much as I enjoy the perception of social entrepreneur. This(social entrepreneur) is an individual who holds dearly the love people bestow upon him/her.


The intricacy associated with this love emerge once one get exposed to different kind of writing material that tease enough mental curiosity to want the exact meaning of such phrases. For instance, you tell anyone to stick to the knitting. What will generally be thought as is sitting in front of sewing machine the whole time, which might be basically true. However, in the fantastic reality of meaningful metaphors, this might basically state,'stick to what you know'. One other interpolation was a direct but substantial statement by one famous philosopher. He said,'beer is proof that God wants us to be happy.' Weird, isn't it? Because it overrides long held views of beer as a social deform er. Wise, isn't? Because this was stated a well known individual add enough value to its influence.


It's the words that emancipate our perception of someone, something.I,imaginatively saw, Julius Cesar as one of the wisest man in political and thought leadership, not because he said something I understood but Shakespeare's writing engaged my perceptual to regard the wise Cesar as brilliant and undeniably the best. Who would not have found it interesting to have known this phrase,' the eye dear Brutus, sees not itself but through the reflection of some other things or Our fault dear Brutus, lies not in the stars but on us because we are underlings.'

As a wishful thinker, I have always needed to speak so fluently the English language. I wanted to speak in manner that the language sound so natural to the listener. The care exercisable in the influence exert able in the use of words is irretrievably warranted to satisfy both the charm of phrases and words. With the regard in mind i have not declared my identity as anti-African but the beauty necessary for me is the incisive need to master the unirvesal language, sometimes to the suprise of the queen herself. The populism that i'm inherently born with can not be ignored in the making of such classical language beauty come true.
Although being unable to communicate in a polite and professional manner is not all doom and gloom, there's yearning that happen to lack in average people like myself. To understand the requisite to manage communication flow without sounding too enthusiastic or less enthusiastic. Everyone have an idea the should be balance in communication and what kind of balance, but when is the balance applicable? However, in contrast to the lovely charm of words, phrases, I'll try to be geniunely polite and professional in my work. I give credit to my new manager for such a suggestion, becuase it goes in line with my objective of being an impeccable communicator.

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

My weaknesses

It'll be competently unhumble for me to give a peice of my self image if I continually give only my adventurous self without giving any judgement on my 'occasional error of judgement.' This time I vow that after this picture I try to cast, rather honest, anyone will be able to see my admittance of being human.



It's three 3pm, on Saturday. My story begins. As, sometimes, a proud person I conjure myself to being the most sensible thing that the globe would like to think of. However, I failed to note that the world do not always revolve around me. The stock market closed on an indifferent note on Friday. I'm in a hope of racking big bucks from this hobbies. I realised that having money work for has two different fundamentals. 'Fundamentals!' This is another technique used to measure the value of a share. Investment in a bank is for security and investment in JSE is for risk and reward. Remember, the saying, 'no pain, no gain'. The pain caused by the volatility of the market is unbearable to the faint hearted. I feel lucky to have a weakness of not listening to fear spread around on the possibility of recession, because I, personally, think our current global economics system are self regulatory. Finance ministers around the globe can implement policies that seem attractive to potential investors, but I have every doubt that free market economy is self regulatory. Self regulatory in a sense that people are the market, not the activity.



When critics, over the past two months, stated that foreign investors withdrew money from South Africa, many thought that it's because of the current political turmoil taking toll in our country. However, this view point fits well from the context of opposition political party. The truth of the matter, as my CEO, stated was because investors affected the dollar/rand exchange because foreign investors withdrew the investment to help salvage the global credit crunch in their country. I feel lucky to be in a country with prudently conservative and strict, economic policies and banking regulations, respectively.



I do not know about the proposal of the Communist Party to let go of the attractive 6 percent inflation target. But I have full confidence that this 6% inflation is good for intellectual communist party, considering the fact their communist policies hero relied on free market generated income to feed himself and publish a his manifesto. Remember the father of communism, who said capitalism is dreadful, while Friedrich Engels, was a Manchester mill owner. If it hadn't been for Engels, Marx would never have finished the book. In fact, if it hadn't been for Engels, Marx would never have finished his evening meal. Marx took his distaste for capital to the extent that he never had any. Whether or not the irony was deliberate, he wrote his text condemning capitalism while living off its charity.



It's my weakness to be gregarious.


The current state of inhuman affairs, where women and children are allegedly raped everyday is uncalled for. While such ugly acts occur, I remain open minded, rightly trying to curve an impression to women that I'm not the bastard who undermine women's power or their rights to dignity. I've come to conclude that they have taken advantage of such attitude towards them. Then I ask myself,'Is there something I'm doing wrong? Am I supposed to manifest the already held view of men being dogs? I'll leave the former to beaus out there to decide, while I vehemently deny living under the force of the latter. Doing so, I can only hope, will help advance the ideal personality women should assocaiate with me.


What characteristics of my ideal personality I withstand to have it resonate on this difficult relationship?


No man is flawless, but I think trying to subtly admit my faults will not help much. I'm too sweet, honest for subtlety. I'll truthfully detail where did I go wrong and if I found enough time I'll be able to clarify the reason for wrong doing and enough foresight to circumvent similar mistakes taking place. This will not only resonate truthfulness, rsponsibilty but will restore trust. It breaks my heart to see a beautiful lady walking or sitting next to me but I could not speak to her since what's implanted to her mind is aggravation that men can cause in your life. Based on current state, I agree with this thinking 76% on the scale of 100%. But what about the 24%? This where I and other ordinarily harmless men fall in. We are few. However, the grave harm caused by the 76% diminishes the value of us, the twenty-six percenters.

To complement the weakness that accrue from my thinking that I have above average intellect and sheer brain power to move substantial amount of people, is the lack of evidence. I have not been in a position to speak in public where my audience were gripped and making sense of what I happen to be saying, let alone my being comfortable with public speaking. When can someone say with conviction, there's a gift inside his/her soul without practical evidence? Personally, I doubt.
There are quite substantial weaknesses that humankind consciously come to contact with. In lust for life, I have come to understand that acknowledging one's strengths has altruism when one remain humble and forthright. However, I also realised there's more to learn in the life of Owen towards, not only greater good, but bad.
That's just my weaknesses.
Au revoir.